Mystery Method

Mystery Method is a 'method' of seduction, developed by Erik von Markovik a.k.a "Mystery". The system was initially outlined in posts on the newsgroup alt.seduction.fast, and later codified in the form of live-action seminars and an e-book which von Markovik sells from his website.

Mystery himself is considered "the World's Greatest Pickup Artist," (Elle Magazine, Saturday Night Magazine, et. al), and is responsible for coining a lot of the terminology now used in the world of seduction: such as "3 Second Rule", "set," "routine," "neg hits", etc[1]. The Mystery Method is now marketed online, via books, DVD sets, and most notably, live seminars and teachings with various instructors, including Markovik himself.

S&R Value

Mystery Method uses the term 'value' to describe a person's Survival and Replication value to those around them - that is, the degree to which interaction with this person could affect the chances of their genes being passed on. A big, alpha male poses a large possible threat to other male's S&R value, where a very attractive woman poses a large possible benefit to the S&R value of any male who can mate with her.

Mystery Method teaches that people have strong emotional reaction to people with significantly higher value to them - men will have an emotional reaction to very attractive women. This emotional reaction causes them to feel an adrenalin rush, and to act in a 'weird' way around the target female. An exceptionally attractive women causes this reaction in the majority of men, so will subconsciously believe that any male who appears emotionally unreactive to her is of higher value than her, and will become attracted to him.

Many of the techniques taught as part of the method are ways for the user to demonstrate high 'value'. Examples include story-telling with embedded (but well-concealed) bragging, appearing emotionally unreactive to 'targets' and other men, and showing that the user is 'pre-selected' by other women. These techniques, along with many others, are taught as part of the 'M3 Model'.

The M3 Model

The Mystery Method M3 Model is divided into three steps: Attraction, Comfort and Seduction, each of which is divided into 3 phases. The Method teaches a set of strategies and tactics for each phase to successfully move the interaction forward toward the end goal, which is the creation of an intimate sexual relationship.

Step 1: Attraction

The goals of the 'Attraction' phase are: to start a conversation with the target ('Opening'); demonstrate high 'value' to the 'target' in order to build her attraction to the player ('Female to Male interest'); and to appear to become increasingly attracted to her, for reasons other than her looks, while making her increasingly invested in the interaction ('Male to Female interest').

  • A1 - Open the set

This phase lasts ten to thirty seconds. The pickup artist (PUA) approaches the set and begins a conversation, usually inserting a "false time constraint" (stating that he cannot stay long) and delivers a "neg" to his target. By giving his target the impression that he is not interested in her, her friends (who are used to many men approaching the group with the purpose of hitting on their friend) will be less defensive about his presence, and she will be confused and likely to attempt to qualify herself to win his attention. Once he has reached the 'Social Hook Point', or the point where the set is sufficiently interested in him that they don't want him to leave, he proceeds to Demonstrate Higher Value in the A2 phase.

  • A2 - Female-to-male attraction

After opening, the PUA "stacks" into his routine, which is usually a story embedded with demonstrations of higher value. The story will convey attractive personality characteristics while entertaining the group. If successful, the PUA will notice indicators of interest from the target, and he will proceed to A3.

  • A3 - Male-to-female attraction

Now that the target is attracted to the PUA, he will give her opportunities to qualify herself for reasons other than her good looks, usually by asking her questions about her experiences, her personality, or her fundamental dreams and desires. He will generally respond positively and give her the impression that he is selecting her based on her personal qualities.

Step 2: Comfort

In the 'Comfort' phase, one should attempt to establish rapport, trust, connection and a sense that the interaction is real and genuine. According to the Mystery Method, "the game is played in comfort". It is the longest and most crucial step and generally takes several hours, possibly over the course of several days, to complete. Mystery writes that of the average 4 to 10 hours (cumulatively) it takes to build a connection sufficient for the initiation of a sexual relationship, as much as 90% will be spent in the comfort-building phase.

  • C1 - Conversation

Through personal conversation, the PUA will build rapport with the target through pair-bonding techniques. Touching begins in this phase, although it is likely to be innocuous, such as palm-reading or thumb-wars.

  • C2 - Connection

If he has not done so yet, the PUA will isolate the target or build a 'time-bridge' into future meetings, by sharing contact information and agreeing to a meeting. Both the man and the woman feel a strong vibe. Kissing begins, but foreplay or "heavy petting" is strictly forbidden even if the target initiates it.

  • C3 - Intimacy

The PUA moves the target to a private location where sex is possible, usually his or her home. Heavy making-out begins and the couple moves to the bedroom.

Step 3: Seduction

The 'Seduction' phase is the physical escalation towards sex and dealing with a woman's natural last minute defenses towards sex with a new partner.

  • S1 - Foreplay

Once the couple have established enough comfort and have moved to a private location appropriate for sex, he will continue physical escalation, but unlike during the comfort phase, will not stop the escalation at the point where profound sexual arousal begins. This stage ends in moving her to the final seduction location, the bedroom (or car, bathroom, etc).

  • S2 - Last Minute Resistence

Last minute resistence (LMR), according to Mystery, is an evolutionarily hard-wired emotional defense mechanism a girl has due to the fact that 40,000 years ago, if she got pregnant by a guy who wasn't going to stick around to help raise the child, she and the child would die. Consequently, just before the sex act with a new partner, the female will experience profound anxietry related to his attachment to her. Mystery suggests that insurmountable last-minute resistance is a symptom of inadequate comfort building earlier in the pickup.

Mystery details various techniques for overcoming LMR. The most important is the "freeze-out" technique. When a girl offers strong (more than token) resistance, or says "no" or "stop", he advises that the PUA should agree with her, stop completely, and turn all the lights on. He then will either leave to another part of the house/apartment, or begin to do something boring with her like playing checkers. The objective is to make the target feel the loss of intimacy and want it back, and be more willing to cooperate when he later reinitiates contact, for fear of losing it again.

  • S3 - Sex

In Mystery Method, it is understood that this phase is self-explanatory.

Negs

Media attention directed towards the Mystery Method will invariably mention the concept of 'negs'[2][3][4], as a controversial example of what the method teaches. The oft-quoted example is the comment:

  • "Nice nails, are they real? No? Oh, well they're nice anyway."

Negs are intended to be false-disqualifiers and are intended to lower the target's comparative value. Specifically, they are not meant to sound like insults - instead they're meant to resemble the comments of a person who does not view the target as having high value. Negs need not be verbal - blowing one's nose in front of a target is considered a neg, as presumably a male trying to impress a female would not do it.

A proper neg never makes the target feel insulted or degraded, but rather questions whether the man approaching her has fallen under her spell. Women of particular beauty often tend to assume males approaching them are interested in them solely as a result of their looks, and negs attempt to neutralize that assumption by demonstrating that the man is not (yet) interested in her, despite her beauty. A successful neg will make the target feel self-conscious and attempt to regain control of the situation by qualifying herself.

Other examples of negs:

  • "That's a nice skirt. It seems to be a popular style these days."
  • Pointing at the target as if she has eye boogers or something on her face.
  • "Look, her nose wiggles when she laughs. See! There it goes again. *laugh*"
  • "Ew, you just spat on me!"
  • Blowing one's nose in front of the target.

Venue Changing

Each stage will usually be in another venue:

A = Meeting location (Attract) C = Comfort Building S = Seduce/Sex location

3 Types of Venue Changes

1-Move

Move = Within venue A, Within Attract Stage, Isolate B, Within Seduce Stage, move to Bedroom

2-Bounce & Jump

A, Bounce = Pop into another venue B, Jump = Hop around between various venues

3-Time Bridge

Time Bridge = No time now, get digits for another meet

Summary:

Each set will usually be played out in 6 spots:

1) A1/2/3: Meeting Location 2) C1: Comfort location within the meeting location 3) C2: Comfort location outside the meeting location 4) C2: Jump between Comfort Locations 5) C3: Comfort location within the Seduce/Sex location 6) S2: Bedroom

See also

References

  1. ↑ http://www.fastseduction.com/acronyms.shtml
  2. ↑ http://www.mysterymethod.com/Article.aspx?aid=5
  3. ↑ http://www.mysterymethod.com/Article.aspx?aid=2
  4. ↑ http://www.mysterymethod.com/Article.aspx?aid=1

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